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Stories From the Edge of Blindness

In 2002, Retinitis Pigmentosa changed my life. This is my story of a slow approach to darkness.

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Feet of Clay

The next poem in my recorded poetry series is another one from Wildflower Muse, published it 2016.  It is called, “Feet of Clay” and can be read here, if you’d like to read it.

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Forgettable

I think I have always been rather forgettable.  I even got a disease that people seem to easily forget.  I attended a family function recently and had to leave early because of problems with my eyes, and everyone but my husband seemed surprised by this.  I think my family often forgets that I am going blind as they often seem to have forgotten about me in general, for as long as I can remember.

I am the youngest of three children, the oldest of whom is a veritable super star and the middle who has been plagued by illness since he was 18.  I was conceived to save a failing marriage and failed in this task I was born to.  I have always been not quite pretty or smart or memorable, and never really wanted so left to my own devices.  Although sad in some respects, I have been afforded the freedom to have all kinds of fun and to live a life of pure and unadulterated self-expression.

I am in my forties and married to a wonderful and boisterous Irishman.  I am heavily tattooed and change my hair as it suits my mood.   I never followed a specific career path, even though I come from doctors and lawyers and general success types. I have lived all over the country and claimed a dozen professions.  I am an artist and an individual, but in my family I am the shadow who gets the passing glance and is as quickly forgotten.

My family, when thrown together, forgets that I am around and forgets that I am going blind, but I don’t have that luxury.  I live every day knowing that my eyes are failing me and that I no longer have the luxuries of driving or working or being able to walk through the world with any kind of grace or ease.  I suppose that between my sister, who is constantly revered and celebrated and my brother, who is a constant patient, there is just nothing left for a shadowy girl who has never been much of anything.  In my family, if you don’t stand out, you don’t stand a chance.

I have dreamed of disappearing and running away.  I plot ways to get out of family functions.  If I don’t show up, I won’t be missed.  And if I do, I will be brushed to the side and forgotten. But, I feel guilty if I don’t show up.  I don’t want to hurt anyone, but then no one even knows I am there.  I can’t win and so far I haven’t found a way to escape. I suppose what I can do, what I have always done, is to simply write. I write about family and shadows and I write about going blind.

I write about going blind because I cannot forget. I write about going blind because it is part of the fabric of who I am, who I have become and who I will be .  I write about going blind because it is my reality and my strength and my fear.  I write about going blind because it is my truth, but no one in my family reads what I write or subscribes to this blog.  I am an after thought.  A back burner disaster.  Nothing.

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