Two days ago, I was visiting my Dad, and my StepMom got really sick. So sick, we had to take her to the emergency room. She is totally fine now, but in the chaos of getting her to the ER, I left Zelda in my Dad’s car and haven’t been able to get there to pick her up.
I have to admit, not having Z the past couple of days has felt like a relief. I got to go out and do errands at my own pace; of course my anxiety level was at an all time high, but I didn’t feel weighed down by the cane and at the time it felt like an o.k. trade off. I started to feel like I might just retire her to an obscure hook in my closet and hope for the best when I go out walking. But, then my husband interjected his usual wisdom.
Joe compared my not using Zelda to an insecure person continuing to drive when they know they should stop (which I can, of course, relate to, having had to give up driving at 34). I think that what he was saying, in basic terms, is: everything is ok until it isn’t. I may feel like being out with Z is fine because I still have usable vision and most of the time I make it back home unscathed, but that isn’t a guarantee. I have probably had more close calls than I know about, because I didn’t see the car or person or bicycle etc. that I almost collided with. Fuck….why is my husband always right?
Tomorrow, I will pick up Zelda.
Speaking of Zelda, today was supposed to be my 11th and last lesson with Tamar, but I cancelled it. I thought it would be silly for me to show up at the Braille Institute to meet my O&M instructor without my cane, and I wasn’t sure until last night that my Step Mom was completely on the mend. So, I texted Tamar to cancel and tell her that I thought we didn’t really need to meet again; for our previous meeting, I took her out to lunch and gave her a card and was totally prepared to say goodbye, so maybe I needed to stick to my plan and have that be our last meeting. I suck at goodbyes and I didn’t want to have to go through it all again. The problem is, I may have burned an important bridge; Tamar never got back to me and I don’t know if she is just busy or pissed off that I cancelled another lesson and told her I didn’t think I needed any more, in a text. The text was super nice and filled with honest sentiments of gratitude, but perhaps she would have preferred a phone call, or maybe I just totally screwed up her schedule. I figured she had taught me all I need for now and it was time for a new student to benefit from her skills and knowledge. I hope that I didn’t completely piss her off, but in any case, my O&M training is officially over and Zelda and I are on our own.